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   Maria

   Are any topics off limits when dating? + -

   Maria Sep 29 at 2008, 3:35 PM

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   Maria said "I've got a friend who refuses to discuss religion or politics or any controversial topic when dating. It is too likel"

   I've got a friend who refuses to discuss religion or politics or any controversial topic when dating. It is too likely to bring up arguments or confrontation during a date.
   
   I think that these are great topics to discuss. Not only can it bring up some lively conversations, but wouldn't you want to know that the otherwise perfect guy opposes your ideals early on in a relationship? At the best, you can agree to disagree, but if you can't see yourself with ANY guy who thinks the only thing wrong with the Bush-Chenney administration is that they can't run for a 3rd term, then I say bring it on!
   
   So are any topics off limits for you when dating?
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      Mihir

      RE: Are any topics off limits when dating? + -

      Mihir Sep 29 at 2008, 3:49 PM

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      Mihir said "if those "off topics" are makers or breakers then you should bring them up before the date. If you are willing to li"

      if those "off topics" are makers or breakers then you should bring them up before the date. If you are willing to listen to the other point of view and so is your date then go for it.
      
      I personally don't like to talk about past relationships.
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         Maria

         RE: Are any topics off limits when dating? + -

         Maria Sep 29 at 2008, 4:05 PM

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         Maria said "Oh, the past relationships topics is a good one. While it would be good to know why their last relationship failed, "

         Oh, the past relationships topics is a good one. While it would be good to know why their last relationship failed, no one ever says, "Oh, it's because I was a jerk and cheated on her." Everyone spins their own version of reality and never thinks they are to blame so they never give an honest answer anyway.
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      ferrin

      RE: Are any topics off limits when dating? + -

      ferrin Sep 30 at 2008, 10:45 AM

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      ferrin said "I talk about everything on a first date. That's probably why I can't get a boyfriend (hehe). I figure the man has t"

      I talk about everything on a first date. That's probably why I can't get a boyfriend (hehe).
      I figure the man has to love me or even like me for all that I am and all that I'm not.
      I could pretend to be someone sweet and nice, but I am a kind bitch and am committed to honesty. My honesty or strait-talk opens up great conversation.
      Maybe I shouldn't mislead you folks, cause I do have a few fellas I hang out with on occasion, frequently.
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2. 
   Jas (Jazzie)

   To be cheated on. + -

   Jas (Jazzie) Jul 22 at 2008, 1:30 PM

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   Jas (Jazzie) said "Is it pathetic to be cheated on and still want to get back together with your ex?"

   Is it pathetic to be cheated on and still want to get back together with your ex?
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      Shanita

      RE: To be cheated on. + -

      Shanita Jul 22 at 2008, 2:11 PM

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      Shanita said "Yes, it is pathetic."

      Yes, it is pathetic.
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         Brealon

         RE: To be cheated on. + -

         Brealon Jul 22 at 2008, 3:31 PM

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         Brealon said "baby, if i cheat on you, and you get back with me? im gonna cheat on you again."

         baby, if i cheat on you, and you get back with me?
         im gonna cheat on you again.
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      SUVs R wasteful

      RE: To be cheated on. + -

      SUVs R wasteful Jul 23 at 2008, 1:32 PM

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      SUVs R wasteful said "Ouch! Sorry to hear that happened to you. :`-("

      Ouch! Sorry to hear that happened to you.
      
      :`-(
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         Jas (Jazzie)

         RE: To be cheated on. + -

         Jas (Jazzie) Jul 23 at 2008, 1:46 PM

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         Jas (Jazzie) said "yeah... dont plan on going back together or anything, just in general... what if the opportunity were to come up... "

         yeah... dont plan on going back together or anything, just in general... what if the opportunity were to come up... but i highly doubt that i am desperate enough to get back w/ someone who's a total ass.
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            EvilTwin

            RE: To be cheated on. + -

            EvilTwin Jul 24 at 2008, 12:45 PM

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            EvilTwin said "Just cheat on him in return."

            Just cheat on him in return.
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               Ms. Wow

               RE: To be cheated on. + -

               Ms. Wow Aug 7 at 2008, 3:43 PM

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               Ms. Wow said "a dish of karma and revenge anyone?"

               a dish of karma and revenge anyone?
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      John

      RE: To be cheated on. + -

      John Sep 9 at 2008, 12:11 AM

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      John said "Not pathetic Jas. And don't beat yourself up over these feelings. Just because you've been cheated on doesn't mean y"

      Not pathetic Jas. And don't beat yourself up over these feelings. Just because you've been cheated on doesn't mean you have fully processed your emotional attachment to your ex. That takes time, and a clean break doesn't give you closure either. Unless you are a total hard-ass, these feelings will be raw for a while.
      
      As for getting back together, I would advise against it.
      
      Take it from Dr. John: "...The best way to get over an ex is to get under a new flame ASAP...."
      
      A John of many John's in San Francisco
      
      
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      1. 
         ferrin

         RE: To be cheated on. + -

         ferrin Sep 9 at 2008, 9:58 PM

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         ferrin said "Jas, I do not trust that monogamy always works for everyone. Why can't two people love one another wholly and com"

         Jas,
         I do not trust that monogamy always works for everyone. Why can't two people love one another wholly and completely and be in a polyamorous relationship?
         Humans are merely animals created to love more than one person. I do not get why we can't love freely. It doesn't make sense.
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            Semper Fi

            RE: To be cheated on. + -

            Semper Fi Sep 10 at 2008, 12:31 AM

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            Semper Fi said "Dayum! Where ya been all this time, Ferrin. Poly with me! ;-)"

            Dayum! Where ya been all this time, Ferrin. Poly with me! ;-)
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               ferrin

               RE: To be cheated on. + -

               ferrin Sep 10 at 2008, 9:55 AM

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               ferrin said "Haha, cutie. Post some better pictures of yourself and we shall see (hehe)!"

               Haha, cutie. Post some better pictures of yourself and we shall see (hehe)!
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3. 
   Ms. Wow

   Finding Friends + -

   Ms. Wow Jul 15 at 2008, 2:28 PM

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   Ms. Wow said "My new years resolution was to make my circle of friends bigger and thus far it hasn't happened. I mean I go out a "

   My new years resolution was to make my circle of friends bigger and thus far it hasn't happened. I mean I go out a lot. I have more male than friends than female. What is the secret behind trying to meet friends at an even and them not thinking that you are a lesbian or just plain creepy?
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      Nursey

      RE: Finding Friends + -

      Nursey Jul 15 at 2008, 3:16 PM

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      Nursey said "It's just hard to meet new friends period! I'd like to widen my social circle too.. but it is difficult. We should h"

      It's just hard to meet new friends period! I'd like to widen my social circle too.. but it is difficult. We should have a night out - just post and everyone try to meet up.. make new friends.. :)
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         Laura

         RE: Finding Friends + -

         Laura Aug 7 at 2008, 5:21 PM

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         Laura said "Dats a great idea! I know a spot that I take my new co-workers to when I want to get to know them...its called Ka"

         Dats a great idea! I know a spot that I take my new co-workers to when I want to get to know them...its called Katwalk on 35th and 5ave...very cool lounge and the drinks are pretty cheap...got to be 21+ they check ids...what do say?
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            EvilTwin

            RE: Finding Friends + -

            EvilTwin Aug 8 at 2008, 4:08 PM

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            EvilTwin said "I work a couple of blocks from Katwalk. Sometimes my company has events there on the second floor."

            I work a couple of blocks from Katwalk. Sometimes my company has events there on the second floor.
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               Laura

               RE: Finding Friends + -

               Laura Aug 12 at 2008, 2:13 PM

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               Laura said "Cool...I'm wit meeting you and your co-workers if your wit meeting mine..."

               Cool...I'm wit meeting you and your co-workers if your wit meeting mine...
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      ferrin

      RE: Finding Friends + -

      ferrin Jul 16 at 2008, 1:23 AM

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      ferrin said "People are great! Aren't they?"

      People are great! Aren't they?
      1. 
         ferrin

         RE: Finding Friends + -

         ferrin Jul 17 at 2008, 1:17 PM

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         ferrin said "That was sort of a vauge response. Wasn't it? What I meant to say, except that I was too drunk to write it appropri"

         That was sort of a vauge response. Wasn't it? What I meant to say, except that I was too drunk to write it appropriately, is that everyone longs for some sort of companionship. People are in high demand.
         
         Friends are great to have. Even I do not have many friends, male or female. I am very selective in who I wanna call a bud. In fact, earlier this year, I broke up a friendship between another gal and I. I have no regrets about that choice.
         
         I just read through my post and do not see it pertaining much to your topic, Ms. Wow. I am sorry. Sometimes I'll use a soapbox to just babble.
         
         If not already I'd like to be your friend on here, Ms. Wow. If you accept my friend request you will have made your circle of friends bigger. I'm a good woman. You will enjoy my friendship.
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            EvilTwin

            RE: Finding Friends + -

            EvilTwin Jul 18 at 2008, 12:24 PM

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            EvilTwin said "Yeah I know how it feels sometimes. Sometimes I really don't want to add new people to my X-Mas list. Sorry."

            Yeah I know how it feels sometimes. Sometimes I really don't want to add new people to my X-Mas list. Sorry.
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               Ms. Wow

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               Ms. Wow Aug 7 at 2008, 3:49 PM

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               Ms. Wow said "uhh it would take a special person to add to my X-mas list,so i understand. lol"

               uhh it would take a special person to add to my X-mas list,so i understand. lol
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                  SUVs R wasteful

                  RE: Finding Friends + -

                  SUVs R wasteful Aug 13 at 2008, 12:59 PM

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                  SUVs R wasteful said "Christmas list or not, having friends requires time and energy. If you have neither one of those due to your job or "

                  Christmas list or not, having friends requires time and energy. If you have neither one of those due to your job or occupation, chances are you WON'T have that many friends.
                  
                  It's a trade off people have to choose, just like paying attention to family.
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         ferrin

         RE: Finding Friends + -

         ferrin Jul 17 at 2008, 1:18 PM

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4. 
   vernessa

   Lose love... + -

   vernessa Jul 22 at 2008, 3:44 PM

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   vernessa said "Hey…question, A few months ago this guy was head over me but I was not giving him the time or day becau"

   Hey…question,
   
   A few months ago this guy was head over me but I was not giving him the time or day because I was dating someone at the time. But now that I am single and had some time to myself to think about what I want in a relationship, I now want to be with him. But now he has a girlfriend. Do I tell him how I feel? Or just let us stay friends. Even though I am currently dating someone, I think about this other guy all the time and I enjoy spending every second with him. What do I do??? I would not like to lose him as a friend.
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      Ofer

      RE: Lose love... + -

      Ofer Jul 22 at 2008, 4:48 PM

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      Ofer said "If you can tell him that you'd be interested if only he were available, in a way that *doesn't* make him feel pressu"

      If you can tell him that you'd be interested if only he were available, in a way that *doesn't* make him feel pressured or make it seem like you need him to do something about it now, then tell him. Maybe if he becomes available and he's interested, he'll let you know at that time, because knowing that you're interested already makes it easier. But you have to really be satisfied with just letting him know, and not expecting him to do anything about it now, because if you're not satisfied with that I think it would show somehow and he'd feel uncomfortable.
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         EvilTwin

         RE: Lose love... + -

         EvilTwin Jul 23 at 2008, 1:26 PM

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         EvilTwin said "Just tell him the truth. Maybe he doesn't even like his new GF. You never know."

         Just tell him the truth. Maybe he doesn't even like his new GF. You never know.
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            Ms. Wow

            RE: Lose love... + -

            Ms. Wow Aug 7 at 2008, 3:53 PM

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            Ms. Wow said "then why would they be dating if he didn't like his gf. i think that u should wait see if it works out. i would thin"

            then why would they be dating if he didn't like his gf. i think that u should wait see if it works out. i would think that u were very selfish if i was in a happy relationship and you told me your feelings for me.
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               EvilTwin

               RE: Lose love... + -

               EvilTwin Aug 8 at 2008, 4:12 PM

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               EvilTwin said "Maybe he is just using the new GF for sex cuz he got tired of waiting and got tired of using his hands fantasying ab"

               Maybe he is just using the new GF for sex cuz he got tired of waiting and got tired of using his hands fantasying about vernessa.
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5. 
   ferrin

   I am high on a bit of java.... + -

   ferrin Jul 22 at 2008, 2:13 PM

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   ferrin said "I am high on java and Adderal (haha got hooked up with it through a friend). So, I am going to start a topic..hooray"

   I am high on java and Adderal (haha got hooked up with it through a friend). So, I am going to start a topic..hooray!!!
   Last night, I slept with my best friend, Tony. I love him and whenever we have sex it is extraordinary! He's a good man, but I just cannot see a relationship sprouting with him.
   First of all he has an open marriage with another gal. On top of that he's not at all wealthy. Then, as superficial as this may sound, he's got a big belly and a small dick.
   Other than the things listed above, he would be perfect for me. Of course, I would not break up his marriage, but I could see myself as his concubine, permanently.
   What do you folks think I should do? Is there anything I can do or should I just keep things the way they are?
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      Ofer

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      Ofer Jul 22 at 2008, 4:46 PM

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      Ofer said "It sounds like you both are happy with things as they are. What reason is there to change it? (I'm not saying there'"

      It sounds like you both are happy with things as they are. What reason is there to change it? (I'm not saying there's no reason to change it, I'm just asking if there is one, because if there is, you didn't show it in your message)