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Vance

Coping, with the current Recession! + -

Vance Mar 12, 2009 at 3:34 PM

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Vance said "Hi, all http://Going.com members!I,am just curious 2 know how everyone is going about daily life...while dealin"

Hi, all http://Going.com members!I,am just curious 2 know how everyone is going about daily life...while dealing with the current economical recession..are, you drinking more than before,are you becoming a tight wad,starting 2 become more depressed, are u hving more sex? And, how do u feel about the job President Obama is doing since becoming our 44th President Of The U.S. Of America.. I, want good comments! Hv, A Nice Day! Everyone Vance~
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  EvilTwin Mar 25, 2009 at 12:58 PM
  
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  EvilTwin said "I still have been drinking, but at home. Its more economically buying beers at the store or at the liquor store then"
  
  I still have been drinking, but at home. Its more economically buying beers at the store or at the liquor store then paying double or triple the price at lounges, bars & clubs.
  
  As for Prez Obama, well Im a radical so I believe he is just gonna keep doing what politicians do. Serve the interest of the wealthy, corporate elite, which paid to put him into power And keep indebting the taxpayers & their unborn grandkids to the teeth by protecting the wealth of the rich and paying for CEO bonuses.
  
  Mr. Obama is just a manager & all managers have their real bosses.
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ALICIA

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ALICIA Mar 11, 2009 at 9:42 PM

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ALICIA said "what do u really think about marraige? your fears and do u have any advice for females on the subject...how not to p"

what do u really think about marraige? your fears and do u have any advice for females on the subject...how not to put too much pressure on the situation but still get what she needs?

thnx
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  David Mar 12, 2009 at 12:26 AM
  
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  David said "Personally I think marriage is a waste of time and you have to admit it's mainly a day for the ladies, the guys onl"
  
  Personally I think marriage is a waste of time and you have to admit it's mainly a day for the ladies, the guys only job in that instance is to show up.
  About getting what you want, just ask and be receptive to the possibility of being told no.
  
  My question to you is why is marriage so important in the first place, since when do you need a piece of paper or some ceremony to be with someone?
  1. ALICIA
    
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    ALICIA Mar 12, 2009 at 5:33 PM
    
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    ALICIA said "I take marriage as a very important and sacred vow. In my opinion its not just a piece of paper other wise it would"
    
    I take marriage as a very important and sacred vow. In my opinion its not just a piece of paper other wise it would not be such a big deal. I really do think its a special union that two people share together while building their lives together. My parents have been happily married for 39 years and if I could have a union like that or better I would be very blessed.
2. Vance
  
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  Vance Mar 12, 2009 at 2:24 PM
  
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  Vance said "Well, I think marraige...should be a very special day 4 the bride 2 be..The, groom on the other hand just really wan"
  
  Well, I think marraige...should be a very special day 4 the bride 2 be..The, groom on the other hand just really want the day 2 go smooth and quickly! I, think some women put toooo much stress on Wedding Day! It, really doesn't hv 2 be over the top!Personally, that what I think regarding the situation..Hv, a nice day! Vance~
  1. ALICIA
    
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    ALICIA Mar 12, 2009 at 5:34 PM
    
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    ALICIA said "I agree it doesnt have to be over the top and not so stressful... Thanks"
    
    I agree it doesnt have to be over the top and not so stressful...
    
    Thanks
    1. EvilTwin
      
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      EvilTwin Mar 25, 2009 at 12:51 PM
      
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      EvilTwin said "Just don't pressure the guy or otherwise there will be a divorce later."
      
      Just don't pressure the guy or otherwise there will be a divorce later.
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Hope

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Hope Mar 17, 2009 at 11:14 AM

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Hope said "i don't know if anyone has heard this before, but i have heard people say "i don't want a title in a relationship" ti"

i don't know if anyone has heard this before, but i have heard people say "i don't want a title in a relationship" titles, meaning "boyfriend" or "girlfriend. what the hell does that mean?!? Like, how are u supposed to know if you and that other person are exclusive and if they are really "yours".

Also, if a person wants you and wants to only be with u but doesn't want to actually ask you out, for fear of feeling like a relationship was pushed upon them, what do you do about that? like how do u know if u two are actually in a relationship and make it official without saying the words?
The suspense is killing me!! lol
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  EvilTwin Mar 25, 2009 at 12:48 PM
  
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  EvilTwin said "If you are not his girfriend yet. "He is not that into you & never will""
  
  If you are not his girfriend yet. "He is not that into you & never will"
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Hope

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Hope Mar 15, 2009 at 4:08 PM

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Hope said "Has anyone ever had someone tell them "I need to find myself and figure out my life. we need to take a break"? If "

Has anyone ever had someone tell them "I need to find myself and figure out my life. we need to take a break"?
If so, how do you deal with that?
1. Vance
  
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  Vance Mar 15, 2009 at 4:18 PM
  
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  Vance said "Hi, Hope. Well, I would try 2 understand where the other person is coming from. When they make such a statement."
  
  Hi, Hope. Well, I would try 2 understand where the other person is coming from. When they make such a statement. Sometimes, we all need a little break, and time away from one another to just breathe! Hv, a nice day!
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  Maria Mar 15, 2009 at 4:58 PM
  
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  Maria said "Honestly, in my experience, when someone says, "we need to take a break", then they just aren't that iinto you anym"
  
  Honestly, in my experience, when someone says, "we need to take a break", then they just aren't that iinto you anymore and are really just trying to break up with you. They either are trying to spare your feelings by breaqking up with you nicely or they just don't have the balls to just say what they really are thinking.
  
  How do you deal with that? Well, the only way that you can... by moving on...
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    Hope Mar 15, 2009 at 5:03 PM
    
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    Hope said "Well, the main thing that puzzles me is that he still wants me to be there and doesn't want to date anyone else. I "
    
    Well, the main thing that puzzles me is that he still wants me to be there and doesn't want to date anyone else. I know it sounds so high school but I could actually wait for him to come around, but still get on with the rest of my life.
    I don't know, the whole "love" thing seems to be real this time.
    1. Paul
      
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      Paul Mar 20, 2009 at 9:22 AM
      
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      Paul said "Maybe he is just getting cold feet or things were moving too fast for him. I once dated someoneand after about 3 dat"
      
      Maybe he is just getting cold feet or things were moving too fast for him. I once dated someoneand after about 3 dates she was pretty much inthe same place as you. Soon, I was meeting her kids, her siister, her mother, etc. I might have ended up in the same place as her except for the fact that she was moving everything on the fast track and my instinct was to step back and say, hold on, wait a moment, and we ended up breaking up.
      1. EvilTwin
        
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        EvilTwin Mar 25, 2009 at 12:44 PM
        
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        EvilTwin said "It means that he wants to have sex with someone else and if he does or when he does its not considered cheating cuz"
        
        It means that he wants to have sex with someone else and if he does or when he does its not considered cheating cuz ya were not together at the moment cuz ya were taking a break remember? & he wants to keep you around so you wont have sex with no one else until he is asured that the other person stays with him if not you are just the back up girl. Sorry.
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Moxieinthecity

Ladies! Guys Need Your Advice! + -

Moxieinthecity Mar 17, 2009 at 10:38 AM

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Moxieinthecity said "Emotional Vs. Physical Cheating - Which Could You Forgive? At our Inside The Mind of The Opposite Sex event the"

Emotional Vs. Physical Cheating - Which Could You Forgive?
At our Inside The Mind of The Opposite Sex event the other night, an interesting question came.
Which would bother you more - If your partner emotionally cheated on you (without physical consumation) or if they physically cheated on you and hooked up with someone else.
The women all agreed that they would be more likely to forgive a man for sleeping with someone else before they'd forgive him for forming any kind of emotional bond with another woman. The men had the exact opposite response. They said it would be harder for them to get past the fact that their partner slept or got physical with another man. http://moxieblog.typepad.com/moxieblo...

Dominant or Submissive? - Why Does Her Man Try to Act Like a P-rn Star?
Name: Laurel | Location: New York , NY |Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. Our sex life has always been great. We have sex at least three times a week. We both agree that it's important to keep our sex life feeling new so we each try to introduce new things in to it. We've used porn, vibrators, tantra, massage. You name it. The other night I was giving him a bj and he asked if he could come in my face. I don't know why but his request bothered me. Isn't that a sign that a man wants to degrade the woman? I told him no, so he came in my mouth like he always does but he asked me after why I refused him his request. I kind of lied and told him I didn't want to get it in my eye. I've watched porn films where the guy comes in the woman's face and always been grossed out by it. Why would a man want to do that?|Age: 28 http://moxieblog.typepad.com/moxieblo...
1. ferrin
  
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  ferrin Mar 17, 2009 at 11:46 AM
  
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  ferrin said "I say jealousy is just being selfish! I still get jealous, but I move past it. We are such a fucking conceited, selfi"
  
  I say jealousy is just being selfish! I still get jealous, but I move past it. We are such a fucking conceited, selfish bastards.
  
  We say things like, "It is mine." Or, "He or/ she is mine." We can take ownership over people, but look how that is going. Phrases like these are common and, what I say, keeping us at the racist, bigoted, chauvinist or sexist folks that we currently are.
  
  These last sentiments may be looked upon as radical. You may find discomfort with them, also. You are not alone. Yet, I request that you continue reading, nevertheless.
  
  People, humans, folks have been taught by previous generations to operate in a monogamous manner; To take ownership over people. Whether it be taking ownership over our platonic loved ones or folks we have a bodily or physical relationship with. What's more, we have built religions in which enforce this ideal. So, we make it mean that it is right.
  
  I say when we evolve we will move past jealousy or the way we say it is supposed to look like. A inquiry like yours, Moxieinthecity, will not need be posted. For it will be agreed upon that sharing our loved ones, platonic, mental or physical loved ones.
  
  I recognize these are obscure words being written by a woman, but I sick of jealousy. It does not proliferate happiness. My god does not get jealous nor does he practice monogamy (platonic or otherwise).
  
  I'll admit, men, that I am not like most other women, in this sense. Women, please reply with well thought out response. Impulsive anger is not what I am looking for.
  
  Alright, I'm done.
2. Linda
  
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  Linda Mar 21, 2009 at 2:47 PM
  
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  Linda said "There is no differentiation between physical and emotional cheating. Cheating involves a breach of trust and a disco"
  
  There is no differentiation between physical and emotional cheating. Cheating involves a breach of trust and a discounting of the other persons feelings and importance in the relationship. Seeking others to satisfy a need is a sure sign that there is something wrong in the relationship. The question then becomes how important is my partner to me and do I want to invest time and effort in fixing what is wrong or do I move on to someone else? It's not about forgiveness after the act, it's about finding solutions in the relationship.
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jagdish

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jagdish Mar 20, 2009 at 5:43 AM

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jagdish said "I like to create new friends and keep contact with them for long time.........."

I like to create new friends and keep contact with them for long time..........

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Laura

Breaking up is easy to do... + -

Laura Mar 17, 2009 at 11:32 AM

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Laura said "Do you have any great or effective break up lines or actions? For the people that are hard to get rid of, did you hav"

Do you have any great or effective break up lines or actions? For the people that are hard to get rid of, did you have them break up with you? One of my favorite was telling someone we were going to get married...they broke up with me within two days.
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  ferrin Mar 17, 2009 at 1:05 PM
  
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  ferrin said "Find something the strongly detest, embrace it and let them break it off. That worked for me, just recently, with "
  
  Find something the strongly detest, embrace it and let them break it off. That worked for me, just recently, with a racist bastard.
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    Laura Mar 17, 2009 at 7:00 PM
    
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    Laura said "oh dats what's up...gettin out while making him feel like no understands his ignorance at the same time.."
    
    oh dats what's up...gettin out while making him feel like no understands his ignorance at the same time..
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  Paul Mar 17, 2009 at 5:57 PM
  
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  Paul said "I find it best to dump someonee via text message: "Welvome to dumpsville. Population: YOU!" j/k :-)"
  
  I find it best to dump someonee via text message: "Welvome to dumpsville. Population: YOU!" j/k :-)
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    Laura Mar 17, 2009 at 6:32 PM
    
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    Laura said "lmao! Nice...non face to face use of technology...private...which makes it better myspace. That could be a text tem"
    
    lmao! Nice...non face to face use of technology...private...which makes it better myspace. That could be a text template...lol
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Sharon

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Sharon Oct 14, 2008 at 2:20 AM

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Sharon said "I know one person who is now engaged and one person with a promise ring. They both knew their guys for at least tw"

I know one person who is now engaged and one person with a promise ring. They both knew their guys for at least two years or less. I was with my ex for seven years but I knew he didn't want to get married. Well now im worried that if I meet a guy and he likes me a lot or thinks he likes me he's going to go on one knee within that year. Guys say hi to me and I say hi back but I clam up. Yes I know their not thinking about it there and then but what about a few months down the road? How am I suppose to get over this?
1. ALICIA
  
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  ALICIA Mar 11, 2009 at 9:46 PM
  
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  ALICIA said "hi, so what exactly are you trying to get over? the fact that your ex was with u for so long and didnt want to get m"
  
  hi, so what exactly are you trying to get over? the fact that your ex was with u for so long and didnt want to get married? Y are u scared of meeting something that might be interested in the same thing you want?
  I know this is a very tricky subject..
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Jemal

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Jemal Jun 25, 2008 at 12:38 PM

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Jemal said "My new GF recently told me that she has been hanging out (twice, she says) with her ex boyfriend. She was very rel"

My new GF recently told me that she has been hanging out (twice, she says) with her ex boyfriend. She was very reluctant to tell me and had kept it from me knowing I'd be mad about this. Mad because we've been going out for about a month and a half and she'd told me she stopped seeing him about 2 weeks before we met..and still has some feeling s for him. She told me that things just didnt work out and she was ready to move on. The only thing is if ur ready to move on, even if u r "just friends" wouldnt u say something b4 hanging out? I would. The fact that she didnt tell me and was so nervous to tell me, makes me think other shit could be happening. After seeing how mad I got she kept saying I shouldnt have said nething..so it's ok to not tell me even if u fucked up? wtf? So now I dont dont trust her, Im 2nd guessing everything she tells me..I trust ppl until they give me a reason not to, and now I have a reason. Am I overreacting to this? I forgave her and im not gonna do the same to her but how can I make this work if she just sucked all the trust away like that.
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  Jim Jun 25, 2008 at 1:49 PM
  
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  Jim said "I'd suggest you continue dating each other, but non exclusively. If she wants to hang out with her ex bf now and the"
  
  I'd suggest you continue dating each other, but non exclusively. If she wants to hang out with her ex bf now and then, so be it. But shouldn't you have the same freedom to explore other relationships, especially if she still has some feelings for her ex? You could end up being left out in the cold if she changes her mind and goes back to the ex. I know this might not be easy, especially as a new relationship is beginning and all the happy feelings are there. But, as you say, she has given you a reason to not trust her completely. So why not put yourself on equal terms with her as she has with you?
  
  Try this out for a while and see how you both honestly feel about it.
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  Paul Jun 25, 2008 at 2:08 PM
  
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  Paul said "Let me get this straight. She has seen her ex just twice since she broke up with him, then she told you about it, a"
  
  Let me get this straight. She has seen her ex just twice since she broke up with him, then she told you about it, and you think she is being dishonest? It sounds like she is being very honest with you and there is no reason to distrust her. So is the problem that she was nervous about telling you? Perhaps she was afraid that you would overreact and distrust her. Hmmm... go figure! I have no idea where she came to such a conclusion.
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    Jemal said "Paul, Yes, she told me about it. Weeks after. If you had nothing to hide, u wouldnt have ne thing to be nervous a"
    
    Paul,
    
    Yes, she told me about it. Weeks after. If you had nothing to hide, u wouldnt have ne thing to be nervous about, right? She didnt know how'd I react. If ur friends with some one, even an ex theres nothing to cry about. Also, you would tell whoever ur with b4 it happens. You dont do something like that, if u have feelings for some1 and then keep it to urself for a few weeks. Thats what makes me distrust her. Thats suspect. She says nothing happened but really, how would I know? Im a very secure man, and I hate to 2nd guess who Im with, if your going out with someone for a month and a half youre just starting to find out who they are.
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      Paul Jun 25, 2008 at 2:59 PM
      
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      Paul said "Just giving my opinion. I think it's a very natural thing to be concerned about telling you something like this. She"
      
      Just giving my opinion. I think it's a very natural thing to be concerned about telling you something like this. She says nothing happened. I think you have to believe here. If something DID happen, then why would she have told you anything in the first place? If she was going to dump you for her old bf, then you'd be dumped already. Your question here does not sound like you are a secure man, as you have suggested. Trust her. If you can't trust her, then move on and you will both be better off. Your call.
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  Ofer Jun 26, 2008 at 10:59 PM
  
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  Ofer said "It depends a lot on your subculture and assumptions, I think. Personally, I hang out with most of my exes, some "
  
  It depends a lot on your subculture and assumptions, I think.
  
  Personally, I hang out with most of my exes, some of them pretty frequently, and I pretty much expect that anyone I date is hanging out with some of her exes too, and don't expect to be told every time it happens. On the other hand, I also don't expect anyone I'm dating to deliberately decide *not* to tell me she's hanging out with her ex, or to be scared to do so, so the fact that your date did & felt that (and that you got mad) is proof enough that you two aren't working with the same cultural assumptions that I and my friends are.
  
  However, consider the possibility that you and your date have different cultural assumptions from each other, too.
  
  Point is, asking such a question of a general audience like this... don't believe any specific answers you get. Those answers will apply only to the specific assumptions and subcultures of the people giving them.
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  Toby Jun 26, 2008 at 11:50 PM
  
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  Toby said "No. It's a sign that she's being ambiguous. You are the man, and like it or not, our culture doesn't allow you to b"
  
  No. It's a sign that she's being ambiguous. You are the man, and like it or not, our culture doesn't allow you to be ambiguous.
  
  I don't think it's a matter of saying 'no, you can't do that'. You have to continue to attract her and show her that it has to be you only. The hippy-dippy approach ends up doomed with you feeling like an ass couple years later! If your woman can't respect your reasonable requests then it's time to improve the situation.
  
  What would James Brown do?
  1. Paul
    
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    Paul said "ummmm... I'm not sure that James Brown is who he should emulate: http://www.cnn.com/2004/LAW/01/28/james."
    
    ummmm... I'm not sure that James Brown is who he should emulate:
    
    http://www.cnn.com/2004/LAW/01/28/james.b...
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      Toby said "Right, Paul, that abuse is well known. I don't use smiley faces in my writing, so sarcasm and humor are inferred a"
      
      Right, Paul, that abuse is well known. I don't use smiley faces in my writing, so sarcasm and humor are inferred at times.
      
      Before that episode he served time in jail for leading the police on a high-speed chase through three or four states. He was known for all kinds of things, primarily being the hardest working man in show business.
      
      Their marriage wasn't legal, as she found out when he died.
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  John said "Assuming you live in a city, there should be zero need to hang with an old gf/bf unless there's still some heat in t"
  
  Assuming you live in a city, there should be zero need to hang with an old gf/bf unless there's still some heat in that pot. This is a pattern of "lack-of-respect" that she will carry into all her quazi-commitments.
  
  Summary: the hoe lacks respect boundaries.
  
  Action to take: In a nice and civil way, bitch-slap the hoe & move on - before you become the next "ex" for entertainment rev.2.0
  
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    Wonder said "LOL John, you have the quirkiest way to put things.... But Jamal, I agree with John to some degree and with the ot"
    
    LOL John, you have the quirkiest way to put things.... But Jamal, I agree with John to some degree and with the other posts in other ways.
    
    If she was just chilling w/the ex, I would say don't over think it b/c they could have been friends before becoming bf and gf; and really you can't tell her what to do. Just learn to trust her and keep working on your relationship. It is hard to get over someone you really cared about. The time frame within which she tells you she was hanging out w/him should not get you worried either. Like Paul said, she might have just been worried about how you would react.
    
    If she cared about you and really was interested in continuing what you two started, out of respect for you, she should've allowed a little bit more time to pass before hanging out with the x. If she was in a long-term relationship, it takes a long time to really get 'over' someone. If she was in a short-term relationship, then she should definitely not have needed 'closure.'
    
    But it sounds like you two are starting on the wrong foot anyhow. I would suggest you just drop if you are going to continue second guessing her actions and words.
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      John Jan 15, 2009 at 12:36 AM
      
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      John said "Well, well, well... if it isn't Ms. Wonder. So nice to see you back in the BB's. I've been away myself for a whi"
      
      Well, well, well... if it isn't Ms. Wonder. So nice to see you back in the BB's. I've been away myself for a while. Am not really back yet. Just saw your post and thought I'd say hello. so hello.
      
      And about my off-kelt manner of putting things, why don't you just say "John, I just love the way the words roll off your tongue (and keyboard)". You know you like it ;o)
      
      Seeya latyer alligator,
      -John of many John's in S.F.
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        Wonder Jan 15, 2009 at 10:09 PM
        
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        Wonder said "You are all talk and no action! I'm not flirting w/u anymore b/c I'll never be anything rolling off your tongue. "
        
        You are all talk and no action! I'm not flirting w/u anymore b/c I'll never be anything rolling off your tongue.
        
        And oh, I got really busy w/doing stuff, esp wine tasting! I have to run now but I'll write u a private message soon.
        
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        John said "Can't wait to hear from you again. I'm waiting with baited breath, titanium end wrenches and 50 yrd.line Super Bo"
        
        Can't wait to hear from you again. I'm waiting with baited breath, titanium end wrenches and 50 yrd.line Super Bowl seats ;o)
        
        And you can trust me. I have no stock in misleading you.... Seeya.
        
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Dating title: Companion--Good or Bad? + -

Wonder Jan 4, 2009 at 1:54 PM

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Wonder said "Gentlemen a question: Is the word 'companion' a bad title to receive from someone you're dating? Why and Why not?"

Gentlemen a question: Is the word 'companion' a bad title to receive from someone you're dating? Why and Why not?
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  David said "I think if you are dating and looking for a long term relationship, finding a companionship with that person is extr"
  
  I think if you are dating and looking for a long term relationship, finding a companionship with that person is extremely important. The problem is that it can't be the only term of endearment used. If it is, then the relationship is probably not going anywhere beyond a good friendship (with benefits, perhaps, although I wouldn't assume intimacy with a 'companion'). If a guy is really interested (and worth pursuing), he'll want to have a girlfriend and/or a lover and/or a soulmate as well as a companion and won't be afraid to say it.
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    Wonder said "Thanks David..."
    
    Thanks David...
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